Let's get together.
yeah yeah yeah
“Sometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show up.”
- Brené Brown
From the very beginning of this journey,
we've wanted to know:
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Can we find out how our friends are really doing?
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Can we provide the support they desperately need in any given situation?
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How can we be safe enough for them to share what’s going on?
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Can we shorten the typical two hours it takes to deeply connect?
The answer is yes. We can.
It's time to get REAL.
Each 90-minute meeting will walk your group of 4 through our REAL format. REAL stands for...
R
Rate. This is the easiest question. Give us a number 1 through 10, how are you doing?
A
Ask. Do you need some love? Unbiased feedback? Camaraderie? Ask your group.
E
Explain. We need context for your rating. What’s the story there? Good, bad, ugly.
L
Listen. Your three new buddies will do their best to give the kind of support you asked for.
Ah, we'll just show you.
We're hoping to film an actual meeting soon with some of our members, but right now here's a video of Andy and I walking through REAL together.
It's our #1 priority to make these meetings...
Safe
We work to make these meetings safe, without stifling emotional expression. We expect confidentiality, respect boundaries, and record meetings to be reviewed by our staff in the event that an issue presents itself.
Structured
Spilling your guts to three potential strangers sounds intimidating, we know. But the framework brings down that anxiety a bit because you know what to expect. It’s the same structure every time. It feels natural after one or two meetings.
Loving
This community is made up of empathetic people who genuinely want to see you happy. We really do kick people out if they can’t pass the vibe check. We know there’s a lot of trust involved here – please know we take it seriously.
(Mountain Standard Time)
Please plan to be present for the whole 90 minutes.
Camera on, ready to support.
Mark your calendars!
We're predicting you'll want to jump in a meeting at least once a month, but attendance is not required. Many of us prefer weekly meetings! We are still setting up meeting times as we grow, so if you have preferred time...let us know.
Want to win at meetings?
Fails
✘ Judging other cultures and beliefs
✘ Unwillingness to be vulnerable/receive
✘ Selling to, or propositioning members
✘ Telling others what they “should” do
✘ Making everything about you
First meeting coming up?
Here's some ways to mentally prepare.
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Reflect on what you’d like to get out of the meeting. Your time is your time – you can share as much or as little as you like. Ask for the feedback you feel comfortable receiving. Could be, “Have you guys ever felt like this?” Could be an objective point of view.
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Don’t expect too much of yourself right away. Our groups can be very intense. If you don’t feel ready to put yourself out there in a big way, that’s ok. Plus, Andy will always recommend listening to (or reading) some Brenè Brown. Do with that what you will. 😆
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Feel comfortable in your boundaries. The emotional safety of our members is our #1 priority. Please take care of yourself. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or triggered, take some space. If a discussion takes a turn you’re not comfortable with, say that.
